Reflection on forgiveness

Tina’s 30 Days of Self-Love Reflections posts continue to amaze me for the new ways in which they make me think.

A recent post (I’m playing catch-up) was on forgiving yourself.

She writes:

We have no reason to punish ourselves. Consequences for our actions and decisions will always exist, but we are not the ones to determine them and harm ourselves. If something screws up one day, don’t feel the need to drown yourself in negativity. Recognize what could change and work to do your best to improve the situation from that moment forward, without punishment. Dwelling on the past and our weaknesses does absolutely nothing for our lives.

She asks us to think about things we have trouble letting go of, or ways we try to punish ourselves.

Very good questions, the pair of them. My initial response was that I don’t.

But then I started … well, reflecting … and I realized that I do try to punish myself. Every time I eat something I think I shouldn’t, I punish myself by continuing to eat other “bad” things.

One meal or snack that doesn’t fit into my plan won’t hurt. It’s when I let that one choice negatively influence the rest of the day’s choices that I end up getting into trouble.

And I think I do that to punish myself for what I deem a slip-up. Instead,I need to forgive myself for eating (whatever) and move on.

Easier said than done, I know. But I’m going to give it a shot. It certainly can’t hurt. 😉

3 thoughts on “Reflection on forgiveness”

  1. Wow Arlene, what a great way to look at this. I do believe this thought process (if I can remember it in the moment) will help me. I’d never thought it about quite that way before. Thanks!

    1. I think it might work for me, too. I tried it yesterday, after eating two cookies at work I hadn’t planned on … and I didn’t keep on going.

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